About The Divorced Pond

Our mission

To help people find love, friendship and company again after divorce or separation, at a pace that feels right.

Dating after divorce can feel daunting, especially if it's been years since you last met someone new. The Divorced Pond is part of the Plenty More Fish family, made for people who are ready for their next chapter, whether that's a new relationship, a friendship or simply some good company. Everyone here has a story, so yours needs no long explanation.

What members are saying

Real reviews from members of The Divorced Pond.

Keeping it genuine and safe

After a break-up, it's natural to want to trust someone new, and that's exactly why we work hard to keep fakes out. These are some of the ways we look after our community:

• The ID Verified tick

  Members can verify their identity and show a tick on their profile, so you know they are who their photos say they are.

• Real people, actively checked

  We constantly monitor for non-genuine accounts and content, and suppress and remove them.

• Report and block

  Every profile has a report button. Reports help us act fast, and helpful members can even earn a badge for it.

• Explicit images blurred

  Explicit images are detected and blurred automatically, so you decide whether to see them.

• Ratings and the Anti-Ghosting badge

  Member ratings and the Anti-Ghosting badge show who's friendly and who actually replies.

• Help around the clock

  Our Customer Success team is available 24 hours a day by phone, live chat or ticket.

The Divorced Pond runs on HubPeople, which belongs to the Online Dating and Discovery Association, the industry body for trust and safety. Want to know more? Read romance scams after a break-up: why they happen and how to spot them.

Our community rules

A few simple rules keep The Divorced Pond a friendly place to be.

• 1. Adults only

  This site is strictly for over-18s.

• 2. Genuine members only

  Only real people can join, and members may not market goods or services.

• 3. Be kind

  Treat others the way you'd like to be treated, and let people down respectfully.

• 4. Be tolerant

  Everyone is welcome. We don't allow racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism or any other hate speech.

• 5. Be safe

  Keep early conversations on the site, never share your bank details, and never send money or gift cards.

• 6. Be discreet

  Respect people's privacy. Only approach a member you recognise in public if they've said that's OK.

• 7. Respect boundaries

  No means no. Ask before sharing images, and move at a pace the other person is comfortable with.

• 8. Follow the law

  No messages or media about illegal activity, violence or drugs.